Got a bad call this morning, so I will try to summarize this as best as I can. DH's nephew is currently 23 years old with 2 kids (ages 3 and 3 months old). Baby's mom died last night. Mom had a c-section birth. We are telling SIL he needs to go get a lawyer Monday to get his kids. His name is on the birth certificate but he doesn't have a copy. We told him to go file for copies with the court on Monday. Here is the background as best as I can recall. They live in Detroit. Baby's Mama (BM) had a baby with another man who is in Jail. Gilbert (our nephew) and BM dated and had 2 kids. At one point Gilbert went to Texas to work and sent money back to BM. BM did move to Texas for a while. They ended back up in Detroit. Now BM family is Ghetto (sorry no ther way to describe it). BM family all lives together in a house with parents, kids, grandkids (I think about 7 grandkids). All the daughters give the grandma their welfare checks for her use. Etc, Etc, Etc... Gilbert lived with them for a while. They are happy being on welfare type of family. Gilbert finally got BM to move out into a trailer. Anyways, not living there we don't hear everything. But supposely recently the BM mom went to a psychic/tarot card reader who said Gilbert was cheating on BM. So they convinced BM to break up with Gilbert becuase he was cheating. Sisters went and put a lock on the trailer and locked Gilbert out. Gilbert went to live with friends because he is on probation and didn't think he could call the cops for being locked out of his own place. BM parents and a few sisters did end up moving to Maimi about 6 months ago. Gilbert and BM was going to move with them but the job the uncle promised didn't work out. Anyways, BM has been sick since giving birth to baby #2. SIL mentioned complications from c-section or maybe even lukemia. BM has been in the hospital for 2 months and not diagnosed with anything as far as SIL knows of. BM refused to see Gilbert. BM mother came and got the kids 2 months ago and TOOK THE BABIES TO MIAMI !!!! They are telling Gilbert he can't have his kids because he has no way to pay for daycare, etc. Well BM family lives of welfare, they don't work either! I told my DH Gilbert should be able to get welfare just like the mom. Anyways, they are going to go to som hispanic organization on Monday to try and get a free lawyer. DH says they have been evicted from the trailer now because rent hasn't been paid since BM went into hospital. What else should I tell SIL to have Gilbert do? - Get copies of birth certificates - Get a lawyer. I did tell him that if he got the birth certifcates then he could take his children if they come back from the funderal. Since they were not married they both have equal custody of the kids. Since BM has passed, he is the custodial parent. Gilbert mentioned waiting until he got a better job to try to get the kids but we told him no, see a lawyer now so they don't say you abandoned them after BM died. I also offered for Gilbert to come here to Tampa if he needs to be closer to the kids while this is all going on. We are about 4 hours from Miami. Any advice? This all is coming to us suddenly as DH and I didn't know BM was even sick in the hosptial or the babies were in Miami or anything.
Orignal From: Need advice. Bad family situation going on.
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